It isn't the first time I've watched a movie based on this kinda story line. Lake View Terrance, Jungle Fever and Something New to name a few, but this one really hit home for me cause I could seriously relate to most of it.
Infact, thinking about the whole movie-watching event has me loving my hubby more because when I cried, and I mean cried, the REALLY ugly kind, he just held me. See, I started the movie without him cause I needed to be asleep by 11pm, he joined me when there was just 10mins left in the movie and so he probably really wasn't sure why I was crying the way I was...yeah I cry every chick flick, but this...LOL. He just held and soothed me and proceeded to start the movie again. I don't know if it was cause he really wanted to watch it, but I doubt that cause he's not a chick flick kinda guy, or cause the movie came highly recommended or he just wanted to see what made me cry like that, either way, the movie was on again and I watched it AGAIN till the end!
My Hubby and I's engagement was a pretty hectic one when it came to family and acceptance, and the differences in culture are so huge, there was no way of going through with our marriage without stepping on toes. In fact, the day we got married, the marriage officer at Home Affairs refused point blank to marry us because "these foreigners are a problem", then the only other one there asked me in front of my husband whether I was sure I wanted to marry this white man, and proceeded to caution me on the dangers. I asked her what would make her say that to me, "We need to protect our own she said". Then I got to thinking, interracial marriages in South Africa were illegal at some stage, but I never thought to find out when they became legal until yesterday. And boy was I shocked.
On the 15th April 1985 the ban on mixed marriages was lifted in South Africa.
That's like YESTERDAY!!!!!!! Ok fine, I wasn't born yet, but still!
When Mandela was elected president in 1994, he declared: "We enter into a covenant that we shall build a society in which all South Africans, both black and white, will be able to walk tall, without any fear in their hearts, assured of their inalienable right to human dignity -- a rainbow nation at peace with itself and the world.”
But alas we are still, sadly, very far from this.
But back to the movie, I was really moved by it, and glad for movies like this that teach people that colour is only skin deep, and love knows no boundaries. I sincerely hope our marriage officer watched it and has a different view now (heck, I'm tempted to pop by Home Affairs bearing DVD care-packages...lol).